Proposals with a yes
/family marry and /family adopt post a proposal that pings only the other member, with Accept and Decline buttons. Unanswered proposals expire on their own.
Discord marriage and family bot: marry, adopt and draw your family tree
Family is the classic roleplay favourite done carefully. Members propose to each other, adopt friends as their children and show off their family with /family profile or a family tree image. Proposals need the other member’s yes, anyone can block unwanted requests, and the rules stop impossible families before they happen.
familyDiscord preview
/family marry @Robin
@Sam proposes to @Robin! Will you marry them? This proposal expires in 10 minutes.
@Sam and @Robin just got married! 🎉
What you get
A family tree image
/family tree draws two generations up and down, with partners side by side, as an image you can share. /family profile lists partner, parents and children.
Rules that make sense
One partner and one parent per member, no marrying close relatives and no adoption loops. Bots can’t join families, and every change is checked again at the moment it happens.
Blocks and an easy exit
/family block stops a member from proposing to or adopting you. Anyone can /family divorce, /family runaway from a parent or /family disown a child.
Optional costs and a married bonus
Charge Bank coins for a wedding, a divorce or an adoption, and give married members a bonus percentage on income like daily rewards or quests.
A married role
Give both partners a role while they are married; it is removed on divorce. Weddings and adoptions can be announced in a channel.
How it works
Turn on Family
Open https://console.botgg.app, choose your server and turn on Family in the Engagement section. Pick an announcement channel, a married role and how long proposals stay open.
Set the house rules
Choose whether adoption is on and how many children a family may have, any Bank costs, a cooldown before remarrying and the married bonus.
Members propose and adopt
Members use
/family marryand/family adopt; the other member accepts or declines. Weddings and adoptions are announced if you want.Show off the family
/family profileand/family treeshow anyone’s family. Staff can look up a member, divorce a couple or remove a parent link in the console.
A family system that respects consent
Nothing happens to a member without their click: proposals and adoptions need their Accept, blocks work both ways and cancel open requests, and members can always leave a marriage or a parent. Every change runs in one transaction with both members checked again, so two proposals accepted at the same moment can’t create a double marriage.
Free servers allow up to 3 children per parent and Pro servers 10; within that you can set a lower cap or switch adoption off. Coins come from the server’s virtual Bank and have no real-world value.
/family profileand/family tree: a member’s family as text or an image/family marry,/family divorce: marriage/family adopt,/family disown,/family runaway: parents and children/family blockand/family unblock: control who can send you requests
Slash commands
Generated from the bot’s real command definitions. Full list on the commands page.
/familyFamily: marry, adopt and see your family tree9 subcommands
/family profilemember?Show a member’s family/family treemember?Draw a family tree/family marrymemberPropose to a member/family divorceEnd your marriage/family adoptmemberAsk a member to become your child/family disownmemberRemove one of your children from your family/family runawayLeave your parent/family blockmemberStop a member from proposing to you or adopting you/family unblockmemberAllow a blocked member again
Free vs Pro
Every feature works on the Free plan. Pro raises the limits and unlocks extras.
| Limit | Free | Pro |
|---|---|---|
| Children per parent | 3 | 10 |
Frequently asked questions
How do I get married on Discord?
If your server has BotGG Family turned on, use /family marry and mention the member. They get a proposal with Accept and Decline buttons, and once they accept you are married on that server.
Can I adopt other members?
Yes, if the server allows adoption. /family adopt sends a request; the member becomes your child when they accept. A member can have one parent, and the parent’s partner shows as co-parent.
How do I stop someone from proposing to me?
Use /family block on them. They can’t propose to you or adopt you, and any open request between you is cancelled. /family unblock undoes it.
Does marriage give any rewards?
Servers can give married members a bonus percentage on income such as daily rewards, levels, quests, Question of the Day or study rooms, paid in the server’s Bank coins.
Is the family the same on every server?
No. Families are per server: your partner, parents and children on one server have nothing to do with another server.
Ready to level up your server?
Add BotGG for free, then switch features on in the web console.